Let's give credit where it's due here - your question should read "Why do MY parents always bring up MY past mistakes?". Reader’s Question. My ex second husband served a short 6 months for this confession. My daughter keeps bringing up mistakes i made as a mother. I also tell her that it is unacceptable to keep bringing this up. and either goes crying or … My mom and dad still do that to me bring up my past and the stupid mistakes i made while young. I take my time and help her dress for her bridge which entails: makeup, outfit and shoes. Also my Daughter has been left alone many times and it goes back several years.

1. In rare cases, vomiting can point to a more serious health concern. Or when both partners shut down, or worse, stop bringing up problems at all. Are you staring at her talk about the past and all you can think is, “Not again with this, she keeps bringing up the past”. Some days I feel like giving up, and what still keeps me hanging in there is my two children (when I think what their future will be like, without a father). I’ll keep it as blunt/short as possible. I don't have time to take care of myself because it takes hours to bathe and dress her. Daughter has to text her mom in the same house to get her out. I found your article insightful and thought provoking. You’re like a plunger, you keep bringing up old shit.

----- Not all parents do that ... yours seem to have an inclination to want to make you feel guilty. my bf chested on me and blame me for it because I was slowly pushing him away and at that time I just had my first and only daughter.

I don’t look back; I’m not going that way.

I am a 42-year-old male and my wife is 35. Don't try to play down the severity of your flaws; instead, take responsibility and accept the fact that your flaws may have caused your daughter to feel hatred or contempt for you. They have never gotten along.

You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep rereading the last one.

I wish i could change the past. Our first time visiting her in … If your daughter says that you spent too much time at work and never spent any time with her as a child, accept the past and apologize. “If I did something that I thought would make her proud, she would either dismiss it as insignificant or undercut it in some other way.

The solution suggested here is very appropriate specially since it makes non acceptance of the correction non essential to the new self image of the person who has changed but not so perceiived . You live and learn and move on that's what I told my parents yet they still like to remind me of my stupidity especially around my children or my spouse which pisses me off. If you judge me by my past don’t be surprised when you become part of it.

I was looking for a somewhat diagnosis for this personality.

If the things your friend is doing wrong seem to escalate, you can then use the past as a point of reference.

I myself have not been, for the past 5 years, able to forgive myself for having lost my main (should say only) account – this has put my family in dire straits – which we still are in.

My 35 yo daughter will not stop accusing me of being bullied by my son )40) he lives in a rental on my property behind the main house that my daughter rents . Every time she thinks you messed up here we go with the past mistakes you made.

When she does bring this up I go to another room. My daughter is a victim of childhood sexual abuse.